As girls open up about this topic, it can be very tempting to starting placing blame
on the “mean girls” themselves. Try to keep the discussion focused on how girls can avoid becoming
“mean girls” and what they can do to deal with “mean girls” in a godly way.
As girls, it’s nearly impossible to make it through adolescence without experiencing a mean girl in
some way. You might find yourself on the receiving end, you might be watching one of your friends be
on the receiving end, or you might possibly be a mean girl at one time or another. Use the following
definition and Scripture verses to establish a plan to face the mean girls in your world.
This definition is from the book Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons:
“Unlike boys, who tend to bully acquaintances or strangers, girls frequently attack within
tightly knit friendship networks, making aggression harder to identify and intensifying the
damage to the victims. Within the hidden culture of aggression, girls fight with body
language and relationships instead of fists and knives. In this world, friendship is a weapon,
and the sting of a shout pales in comparison to a day of someone’s silence. There is no
gesture more devastating than the back turning away.”